The Eternal Guest Room

First, I just want to start off by saying a big THANK YOU to everyone who commented on my last post! I was so worried but of course you’re right – what matters most is that we feel comfortable with our doctor and I never felt 100% comfortable with the old one. It was so nice to get all the reassurance and encouragement that we had made the right decision.

We had our appointment on Friday with our new doctor and it went really, really well. Once we got into his office the very first thing he said was “I’m so glad you switched to me!” He then went on to say that we should not feel awkward or anything about switching, because they both understood and both had patients switching from one doctor to the other. So that set me at ease right away. (Of course, we saw our old doctor in the waiting room not once but twice and I felt weird about it, but life went on, as it usually does.)

With the old doctor, I never felt completely comfortable asking questions. With the new doctor, I felt totally fine. And I had a whole list of questions typed out, and he answered all of them. He even gave us a few different options, as opposed to just sitting down and saying “OK it’s time for IVF.” So we didn’t feel pressured or anything.

Which brings me to the interesting part.

We’ve decided to move forward with IVF. We feel that it’s our best chance at this point. It was not an easy decision to make, and in truth, it’s been years in the making. But I’ve come to the realization that most people who have been trying for 4 years don’t get pregnant until they move to IVF.

We talked about how we want to handle the “sharing” of the details, because there are pros and cons to sharing vs. not sharing. But we decided that we’re going to be open and honest about the whole process and tell everyone what’s going on along the way (for the most part). Truthfully I’m a little nervous about that but I feel that ultimately it will be the best decision for us. I dealt for this alone for too many years and I don’t want to go through this alone, because this is huge.

The entire IVF process takes about 2 months, and we’ll be starting the process in early February. In the meantime I have a bit of testing that I need to go through and some appointments with various people who will be involved along the way (the doctor, the embryologist, the financial people, etc.). There’s a lot of “pre” stuff because it’s a big deal.

I’m nervous, scared, and excited. I can’t believe we’re here.